Dating more than one woman at a time
They are both great, unbelieveabley differnt each of them, but I like them in differnt ways.
Thing is, even though I enjoy going on dates with them, and spending time with them - I just don't think either of them are long term girlfriend material for me. I'm not afraid of a relationship its just that it has to be with the right girl.
But for others, they have to date someone many times, maybe even over weeks or months, to know whether there’s chemistry in the air—and they may need to date several people before they finally feel that “click.” If you immediately exclude all other guys or gals from the moment you have your first lunch date with someone until his or her annoying laugh causes you to bolt two months later, you may have to go through several mini-relationships in a row before you’re done. Going on dates with a few different good candidates around the same time helps you find out fast who’s wrong, without forcing you to wait and wait and wait to find out who’s right.
It Allows you to Compare and Contrast Life’s dating opportunities can be like a smorgasbord where everything looks pretty good—and like a smorgasbord, seeing all the opportunities out in front of you at once allows you to be selective.
If you tell them both you arent exclusive and wont be and they accept this then I personally dont see anything wrong with continuing to see both.
It’s true on e Harmony that the more people you communicate with, the faster you will find the person who is right for you.
I used to be toally rubbish with women but in recent times I really seem to have my mojo going, and right now I'm dating two different girls at the same time.
"Assume people are sleeping with other people unless they ask or say otherwise," she says. You're not hanging all your hopes on this coffee right now either? As P puts it, "Don't feel guilty about seeing more than one person, because you can make it weird, and don't overshare about more than one person." If they ask you what you're doing on Saturday, tell them you are "busy." If they ask what you're doing, tell them you're "meeting up with a friend." If they ask which friend, defer, or lie.
This might seem like a sort of defense mechanism against getting too involved, but I like to think of it more as a liberation tool—you assume that they're sleeping with other people, they assume that you're doing the same, and all of a sudden the pressure is off this date. And don't, under any circumstances, bring it up yourself. When you're on a date with someone, they deserve your undivided attention.
You can go on dates with different girls and then ignore them and hope they will go out with you again when the whim strikes you.
But you will never build a track record or find a girlfriend with this technique.